Separation anxiety in babies

Separation anxiety

It's normal for babies and toddlers between 6 months and 3 years old to feel anxious when they are separated from their main caregiver (parent or carer). This is called separation anxiety. It happens more when your baby’s brains are growing and they are learning new things.

Separation can mean

• Baby moves away from parents to explore or play
• Parent leaves the room
• Baby is left with another caregiver
• Parent leaves the home

Tips when leaving your baby

• Take some time to separate in a calm way.
• Show you understand their feelings
• Tell them you are leaving and when you will be back
• Greet them warmly when you return by saying something like "It's okay, mum or dad is here.”

Babies who feel securely attached to parents can handle separations better. They trust parents will come back.

How to help baby feel secure

• Be there when baby needs comfort
• Give hugs and reassurance often
• Enjoy your time together

Get help if needed with separation anxiety or your own worries. Talk to your family doctor and join parenting classes.

The early years are so important for building secure bonds. Seek support right away.

Parent experiences of secure relationships

If you did not feel securely attached as a child, it can be harder to help your baby feel secure.

If you struggle with anxiety, it can also be hard to manage your baby's anxiety or distress.

But you can learn new skills. The early years are so important for building secure bonds with your baby.

Getting Support

Find parenting classes to get new skills at Triple P

Talk to your family doctor or child and family health nurse. They can help you find the right support for you and your situation.